Mar 11, 2014
How do I get him to love me again? Is this a question you’ve been asking yourself since you and your boyfriend broke up? We don’t always understand the depth of our love for our guy until the relationship is over and he has left our life for good. Our natural inclination when we’re stuck in a situation like this is to let our emotions overwhelm us. It’s understandable that it happens. We end up doing things like calling him after a few too many cocktails to try and get him back, or sending him endless text messages that run the gamut from begging him to give us another chance to telling him what a big mistake he’s making. Although, at the time, these approaches seem logical, they’re not. There are proven methods to get your ex boyfriend back that also keep your self worth intact.
When I was first contemplating the question of how do I get him to love me again I thought jealousy was the route to take. In my mind’s eye I imagined a scenario where my ex would run into me and a new guy, he’d fly into a jealous rage and he’d openly declare his undying love for me on the spot. The problem with this method is that it won’t work. It will actually backfire on you and your ex may stop talking to you altogether. Men don’t want to see any woman they care about with someone else. If you hope to have a future with him, don’t even attempt to make him jealous at all.
Becoming his platonic friend may seem like a step in the wrong direction, but it’s a great tool to get him to love you again. After a break up the man in the relationship just wants some room and time to himself. He doesn’t want to feel pressured into jumping back into any romantic relationship, especially the one he just got out of. If you want to keep the connection between you two open, suggest a platonic friendship. He’ll likely be open to it and you need to pace yourself within it. Contact him only rarely and then be very general with your discussions. No questions about who he is dating or if he’s interested in anyone. Just demonstrate to him that you’re a supportive and non-threatening friend. This will establish a new bond between you two. From there it’s just a few short steps back to being lovers.